2001:December:27
12.27.2001

cccccold outside. They are snowed in in buffalo, y'know. boardgames might just get me through the winter.

This Christmas is a bit lonely. Sarah stayed in Montreal, Nell is still in Hong Kong, Malcolm Ex is in the UK and Tim moved to Etobicoke. Karlen is in the GF wormhole. Not all guy friends were able to make it through the relationship wormhole.

I am starting to realize I was kidding myself when I thought my friendships with men had nothing to do with the fact I was single. Many of those friendships have tapered off, and I am not such an egotist to think it was because if dashed hopes on their end but an end to a certain dynamic.Now that I am in a big love live-in thing, things have--er--changed.

Du-uh, I guess, but there is stuff you do when you are single that suddenly feels wrong when you are in a relationship. Like asking your guy friend to close his eyes while you change your top instead of leaving the room, or platonic sleepovers, or staying up all night, just driving around town, then telling secrets at a 24-hour restaurant.

It would feel like I was betraying all kinds of promises were I to do that now. And that is OK. It is also part of a new, wonderful reality. And not to brag, or anything, but I am with the funniest, kindest, wisest, and loveliest guy. And I am blissed.

But do you think you can keep your opposite-sex friends while permanently banishing fun stuff that now seems like gratuitous flirting? Cuz I miss my guy friends.

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