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Pony: a Catholic World Youth Day Pamphlet
7.29.2002
How to Start Over if You've Lost Your Virginity
Secondary virginity is a decision to abstain from sexual activity, starting with today and continuing until the day you get married. I't an opportunity to start over, Your physical virginity may be lost, but virginity is more than just a physical state, It's an attitude, a frame of mind. It's manifested in the way you look at yoursefl and others.
Secondary virginity is a chance to change bad habits and heal past wounds. It allows you to clean and renew yourself prior to marriage.
"We were so much into sex that we never became friends."
Five Steps to Becoming a Secondary Virgin
1. Make a firm commitment to save yourself for marriage from now on, and believe you can do it. (Because you can!)
2. Get away from people, places, things, and situations that weaken your self-control, Sometimes the healthiest thing we can do is avoid people who temptus.
3. Avoid intense hugging passionate kissing, and anything else tht leads to lustful thoughts and behavior. Anything beyond a brief, simple kiss can quickly become dangerous.
4. Find non-physical ways to show your love and appreciation.
5. Remember that anyone can start over. Even you! When you focus on commitment and self-discipline, you can control your impulses..
(this message followed by an paragraph about how "without always being aware of it, women who wear "sexy" clothes are "dressing for sex"
